You’ve all heard the news that negative self-talk is the new thing to hate on.
Focusing on what is stressing you, stresses you… go figure!
I’ve seen and heard a lot of negative thoughts outside of my own head lately and it had me thinking about some things I am keen to try to minimise negative thoughts (and perpetuating them) in my life and the lives of those who intersect with mine.
Negative reviews can destroy a small business
Before leaving a negative review on a business or small business, eBay account, Uber account, AirBNB (they’re all sources of income!) etc
- Were my expectations reasonable and realistic?
Did I pay $200 for an item off ebay, or $5? – you get what you pay for sometimes!
- Will there be any lasting negative effects of the experience?
- Is someone else likely to have the same degree of negativity towards the experience? Was it just “not for you” but perfectly fine?
All of these points will make you rethink your negativity and be grateful for what didn’t happen. If you still feel the need to give negative feedback, consider sending an email privately with some constructive feedback. If you feel like it really is something that requires you to “warn people off” a business, then go ahead, but take the emotion out of it. Post the facts so people can make up their own mind on how they would feel in that situation.
When it comes down to it, companies are made up of people. Employees are people, bosses are people too. Don’t lose sight of that.
Let negative thoughts end with you
In a conversation with a friend, coworker or partner, think before you say something negative about someone else. If you have an urge to say it, then it’s probably an issue that’s having an affect on you.
If so, then that’s something only you can fix.
Imagine them dissolving like sugar in a cup of tea. Ask yourself if it’s really worth your time.
Everyone needs to vent every now and then, but if you don’t need to, try to spend the time listening instead.
Picture something that makes you happy. It might be someone in your life or a recent event or concert you attended.
Think about how it made you feel. Picture it in your head and hold it there.
Pretty soon you’ll feel the size of your negative thought shrink.
Get to the real problem
If you’re thinking something negative, getting stressed about it and you can’t seem to distract yourself, there may be an underlying factor. Are you self-sabotaging a perfectly good situation? Are you unhappy about something in your life?
What’s really wrong? Sometimes it takes a shift in perspective to get you to realise what needs to change. Speaking to a counsellor or a close friend (who doesn’t mind playing counsellor), can bring another persons light to the situation and help you see it in a whole new way.
I’m on my own personal mission to bring more light than dark into this world, hoping these tactics will help me!